ARE YOU REALLY WHO AND WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE?
How Your Ego Describes Yourself, “Puts yourself together.” But is it Authentic?
This, then, is the big question that is asked of you and all of us, right throughout the majority of these blog articles on HeadMend. There was a time when I wanted to – actually started to – write a book called, “If You Think You Know Who and What You Are, You’re Wrong.” Great title, but too confronting for most, I think.
Because my work is and always has been about the chasm between conscious awareness and the actuality of unconscious (or subconscious) influence, and that we do not and can not access the “form” of the influences and ‘control levers’ that those influences push and pull, then it has always led me to describe what’s going on in the inner depths of our minds as being our BACKSEAT DRIVER/S.
Did we hear that correctly? A back-seat driver?
Yes; and she or he is silent, hidden, invisible and independent of your conscious wishes; yet still holds a tighter grip on the reins of your life!
If I were to ask you, “who’s really in charge of your mental states, your emotions, the choices you make, your personal characteristics and behaviors?” you’d probably reply, “I am.” It takes a pretty brave soul to admit, “no idea. I know I think I am, but I do suspect there are forces within me over which I have no conscious control.” These ‘forces’ – our back seat drivers – are responsible for all the difficult habits in our lives, our less-than-lovable traits and characteristics, and the sorts of emotional responses and states that create sadness, stress and difficulties with how and who we are and how we run our relationships with others.